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Your Erectile Dysfunction stories I thought you might be interested to hear my experience of Rings versus Viagra/Cialis. I have struggled with ED for about 10 years and tried everything I could think of. Now, aged 73, I have concluded that a properly fitting cock & ball ring is just as effective as the drugs, without the disadvantages of side-effects and timing issues. (There is one timing issue with a ring in that it is nearly impossible to put on if my penis has started to grow, so its worth slipping it on a little before I think I might get lucky - and easy to remove if I don't). The hardness of the erection is as good as if not better than the drugs' effect for me, and I find it slows down and extends ejaculation in a most satisfactory manner.   The really difficult part has been getting the fit exactly right. I looked at lots of advertisements for rings, and first tried the rubber ones which worked but were uncomfortable and difficult to remove. The metal rings on offer (as sex aids) seem to come in too few sizes ever to get the right fit and are also expensive. I found I could buy stainless steel rings for only a few pounds from firms who sell strapping and rigging. After trying lots of different diameters and thicknesses all of which seemed slightly wrong, I made the gauge in the picture out of thick copper wire to measure the circumference to fit me exactly, then I cut a length out of a too-large ring, closed it up and hard soldered it together again. It is essential that it is comfortable to wear - neither too tight nor too loose - and must be wide enough with a completely smooth rounded interior. The one pictured is 8mm wide and I can wear it all day without leaving a mark. (I turned off the outer face to make it a bit lighter and more attractive). I put it on over both balls first and then fold the penis through, without lubricant. One Persons Experience of Erectile Dysfunction E.D. and Me I'm 52 years old, work in higher education and have been happily married for over 25 years. Over the time that I have been married I have always enjoyed sex, by which I mean penetration. For most of the time we have been married we have probably made love most nights, and often mornings at week ends and while on holiday. Apart from one session of male mutual masturbation in my teens my wife has been my only sexual partner. I guess the other thing I should say is that we have been naturists since we first found a nudist beach in the south of France over 30 years ago. There must be many fellow naturists who have erectile dysfunction. I think that it might be helpful to be a naturist in this situation - hopefully we are more used to talking about our bodies and how they work. I know from the reading that I have done that there are many degrees of erectile dysfunction. Here I am sharing my experience - not necessarily saying it is typical but hoping that other naturist will also share their experience. Any way, on to my 'story'. With hind sight I see that it first started about 4 or 5 years ago. At the time the difference was often quite insignificant. I guess we have all had the experience of not being able to 'get it up', perhaps if we've had a little too much to eat or drink or if particularly tired. Looking back now I realise that there were times, especially in the morning when I could not mange a satisfactory erection. I put this down to needing to go to the toilet. This situation persisted 'under the radar' so I did not really think about it that much. However, it become much more significant about 2 years ago. What I particularly remember is a holiday to Lanzarote. This was a naturist holiday. Normally the time spent naked and the time spent together means that we can enjoy sex more than usual. However, on this occasion I found that most nights I was either unable to get a hard-on or, if I did I quickly become flaccid. I found this really upsetting and it threatened to spoil our holiday as I got so morose about it. The same happened on our next holiday in Japan. Sometimes we stayed at traditional inns, called ryokans. In a ryokan you sleep on a futon on 'tatami' mats. I found the rooms very sexy, don't ask me why! Nevertheless, although the mind was willing the flesh (in the form of my penis) was less so. Again, I was really upset and this. It's as though something that is really important in your life is being taken away. My wife is really understanding and has always tried to help me achieve an erection. When, despite our very best efforts, this does not prove possible she also tries to get me to remember that there are many forms of affection that do require a stiff penis. I have to admit that she is not always able to get me to see things so reasonably. She also points out that I should remember that I am in good health. This is also true - I do not have any of the conditions often associated with ED, such as diabetes. However, it is still fair to say that even this realisation does not always lift my mood when I have been unable to 'perform'. It was during this holiday in Japan that my wife suggested I see our GP on our return home. Before I went to see him I also did some internet searching about ED, so that I could anticipate some of the questions he might ask and some of the alternative treatments that are available. I was quite relieved when he did not mention injecting my penis with a chemical to see if a got an erection (this was something mentioned on an internet site). Other information was more useful. He wanted to know how often I had an erection, whether it refused to get hard or whether it went hard and then drooped too quickly. He also asked about the frequency of erections on waking in the morning. These were all questions I had found in on-line questionnaires. On the basis of my answers he suggested I give Cialis a try. This has the advantage over Viagra that it should make an erection possible up to 36 hours after taking it. (Viagra is only 'good' for a few hours). He also checked that there was no problem with my prostate (yes - it's a finger up the anus) and took a blood test. The doctor suggested trying a full tablet to start with and then, if that was effective a half tablet. As he had a free sample my taster was free - thereafter you have to have it on a private prescription unless you have a recognised medical condition. I have to say that this is one of the best free gifts I have ever had. It was like bumping into a long lost (stiff) friend. My particular memory is that I had an erection because of the movement of the car on a journey - not something I had experienced for many years. This was so effective that I used half a tablet - with reasonable effects. The good thing about the tablets is that it gives you some sense of choice. However, I have found that there are drawbacks. For one thing, since taking them they do not always work as predicted. Sometimes they seem more effective straight away, sometimes it's 24 hours later. The information with Cialis seems to imply that you are alright to make love once in the 36 hour period. I usually do better than this - it would be interesting if other people could report on this. I also have some reservations about using them. Partly this is because I am introducing a chemical into my body that might have side effects. Partly it's because, even with the 36 hours it somehow seems quite artificial. Again, it would be interesting to hear of other people's reactions and whether it is something that you have started but given up - for whatever reason. There is also an argument that it can make love-making far too focused on the erect penis. I suppose my other reservation is that it somehow feels even worse if you do take a pill and then can't get a hard-on. All this means that my sex life has changed. I weigh up whether to take a pill or whether I can 'manage' without. I've had to be masturbated a lot more (there are compensations!) and we have had to develop techniques to try and get round my sometimes unwilling penis. These include kneeling up on the bed while I masturbate and my wife strokes my balls. This can sometimes mean that we can have intercourse. Again it would be good to share ideas about things that work for people. The other impact it has had is that I have considered alternatives to Cialis. I am currently trying a combination of ginseng and gingo biloba. These are available at health food shops or by email. They are ancient remedies that are supposed to increase blood supply to 'extremities'. You have to take them for longer periods to achieve any effect. I think I might be gets some help from them - I think I tend to have more night-time and waking erections since id started with them. The Sexual Dyfunction Association website has a link to companies selling 'confidence' or 'constriction' rings. I have bough a set of these. They are supposed to help keep an erection by physically blocking the flow of blood out of the erect penis. I'm not sure how useful they are. The certainly maintain an erection but they do feel very tight. I have not been able to use them to have sex but have wanked wearing one. This was rather uncomfortable. The ring at the base of my penis also had the effect of making it bend at that point. I have recently bought a much cheaper cockring from Anne Summers. The ring is much larger and is held in place by a strap round your balls. I have high hopes for this as part of my problem is that my balls don't always tighten to enable me to come. That's my experience so far. In my more rational moments I try to see this ongoing experience as just part of life's rich pattern. In my less cheerful moments I still miss my young man's penis. I hope this will
help start some discussion on these pages. I have found writing
about it (for the first time) quite therapeutic as a good way
to begin dealing with it and would encourage you to do the same. The following text is basically an exchange of emails between David and myself. If you wish to add your experiences or compare them with David, just drop me an email: Peter I found your website when looking for information on superorgasm. Marc's achievements are the only thing that I have found that comes close to an experience that I had a couple of months ago. My wife and I were engaged in what was meant to be an early morning quickie. Having diabetes related ED, I took half a 25mg Viagra and immediately started foreplay. I entered my wife as soon as I was hard (10 to 15 minutes, a lot quicker than advertised but common for me). She was wet but still tight: Right from the early strokes I got strong sensation with each thrust steadily increasing until every stroke produced an orgasmic response except, as far as I could tell no ejaculation. This situation continued for about forty minutes unabated apart from short stops for breath and to explain what was going on. I told her to be watchful as I was 90% out of control but she as enjoying the ride and we continued until her back became too painful and she withdrew for a bath. I masturbated for some time with the same results before letting my erection subside and joining my wife in the bathroom where I resumed masturbation whilst we discussed our experience. Regrettably, she was still too uncomfortable to resume or we would have done so. Since that happy day we have been unable to repeat the experience although we quite often stay coupled for 30 to 40 minutes and my erections can last up to 2 hours on just a whiff of Viagra. My searches came up with two possibilities, Tantra on the basis of youthful experimentation in self control and stimulation of the prostate and perineum. Which led me to Aneros which I shall try when we get home from holiday next month. I thought my wife would through up at the idea of sex toys but she thinks that its worth a try. Pity about the extortionate prices. I will email again when I have something to tell, in the meantime advice or encouragement would be welcome. I was interested in your approach to nudism, I have always thought of it as an asexual cult and felt too shy to try it. Also, my wife has a very matter of fact outlook on sex, regarding it a something to be enjoyed and then forgotten about until next time. It is up to me to bring in new ideas and since I had to visit my GP to seek help with my impotence, I have become much more open on the subject of sex and anxious to learn about all aspects of sexuality. Although my wife likes to show off by flirting with me in front of friends, we have kept or sex life very much to ourselves and even if it remains that way I would like to develop contacts in the sexual world having spent much of my life trying to cast off the moral majority cobweb. So good luck to you and your penis, may it long remain erect and the delight of your wife. Best regards David ---------------------- Peter Delighted to hear that my email was fascinating. Just what I hoped to hear, I was not into internet sex discussion and wrote it with a great deal of trepidation. But your site has a WYSIWYG look and your reply likewise. I think of new things to say about our experience every time I think about it and writing about it is a great way to get better focussed. The reason that I had to share it is a feeling that we cracked open the door to a whole new world of sexual experience. I cannot believe it is rare so where are the the other people and what do they know? Taking your reply
point by point: On this occasion, I took 25 mg Viagra rather than my usual half tablet, I can't remember why, but my diary shows a blank for the previous day so it was probably anxiety. Initially, I was taking 50mg, but. early this year I found a commercial website called viagrastories.com. It contained 108 testimonials, nearly all in praise and several claimed that a large dose dulled sensation. I can't say that I've noticed much difference bu it helps the NHS budget. Regrettably this site seems to have disappeared. Have you any experience of Cialis?I would love you to use my text on your webpage, but for my wife's sake need to be cautious and would be grateful if any emails could be passed through you. The story could well be taken as an advertisement as a stud. A response from a woman would embarrass me, one from a man would terrify me. If we get a good response, perhaps you could open a corner on your website and if so, I would be delighted to help you edit it. Your experience with Aneros does not surprise me; the Aneros website does make it seem difficult to get used to. My anus seems to be quite tolerant of intrusion and I have tried feeling for my prostate without success. About a year ago I had a biopsy (clear); under local anaesthetic, the sensation was quite pleasant but after the anaesthetic wore off, the pain was excruciating. It dispelled any interest in buggery once and for all. I presume the Aneros is more like a finger than a penis. I would like to know more about the other device that you mentioned since prostate stimulation seems an elusive skill. Perhaps someone can offer training. Finally, I cannot claim to be a nudist although I have slept nude for the last 40 years and like going around the house naked when it is warm enough. As I wrote before, I have had a lot of moralistic clutter to get rid of but I think I now have become extrovert enough to enjoy going naked among like minded people. I would have trouble getting my wife to join in though. Thanks again for your interest, comment or further questions would be appreciated. Kind regards David ---------------------- Peter, I regret to see that my contribution to your site has elicited no response. How very uncurious people are! My Aneros SGX trials have been proceeding, at the 17th attempt things started to happen and now, after about 30 sessions I am getting very positive results. My wife has been out of action due to a combination of leg injury and a change of HRT so we have been unable to complete the test programme. It will take me some considerable time and thought to write my experiences down as each session is different - I noticed that some participants in the Aneros Forum had to keep modifying their accounts. Could it be this very variability that makes sex so compelling and exciting even after 33 years with a single partner? What has been consistent about my use of Aneros is the high state of arousal after use resulting in frequent dry orgasms at 2 to 3 minute intervals without an erection. I can't wait to find out what happens when my wife joins in! David's success over comming his Dysfunction using the Aneros It has been quite a while since I last updated you on my attempts at sexual rejuvenation. I do hope that you have been keeping up your Aneros trials because, for me things have really been moving and I think we are getting near to maturity. Both masturbation and fucking have been transformed. To remind you of my history, about two years ago I became impotent and discovered Viagra. A year ago I experienced a superO which I described for your web page and on your recommendation decided to try an Aneros. At much the same time I switched from Viagra to Cialis and taught myself ejaculation control. Getting sorted out was no simple matter as you can imagine and, ironically it was greatly helped by having few opportunities for a fuck since masturbation does not require a partner's pleasure to be considered. I decided to try Cialis for two reasons. Although Viagra gave good hard erections that could last two hours or more and could be repeated all night sensation was usually disappointing with weak or non existent orgasms - with the one fantastic exception already alluded to. I found that I was not alone in this impression. I was also attracted by the claimed 36 hour effectiveness of Cialis and claims that the side effects were less marked. All my hopes were met and I find that one 20mg pill every four days enables me to fuck or masturbate at any time. There is a small downside which is that when fucking, my erection will only last 20 to 30 minutes. My first superO occured without any attempt at control but I was quite unable to repeat it either solo or with my wife. I had previously tried to learn ejaculation control - the art of separating orgasm and ejaculation - about 40 years ago without success: after a couple of checks I would squirt uncontrollably, try as I might. Then I met my wife and masturbation became an occasional sideline. But, this time probably due to ageing slowing everything down, I accomplished it and with practice have reached the condition where I ejaculate only occasionally and then only by more or less deliberate choice. I produce far less semen than I once did and discharge it in dribbles, usually in the course of going floppy. And then my dear wife gave me an Aneros SGX for my birthday, no small concession as she usually finds sex toys distasteful. I chose the SGX as it is the smallest and I had severe doubts of the attraction of having my bum penetrated. But right from the start I found the experience pleasant and was slowly found my way into a whole new orgasmic world. First was orgasm without erection or touching my penis in any way, and felt right back in my rectum. Before long I could repeat the experience in quick succession. And then my first spontaneous orgasm or aftershock - awaking to a continuous rectal ogasm that went on and on. And if I stroked my shaft, I could have a conventional orgasm at the same time with or without ejaculation. Bliss! Whilst my libido and ability to satisfy it were going through the roof, my wife was suffering considerable pain and our couplings were few and little improved - certainly the superO remained elusive. But then, all of a sudden, we clicked. Every sensation is heightened - just stroking her outer labia causes me to erect and start an orgasm which intensifies as soon as I enter her and continues unabated until she comes which, happily is delayed but intense. By this time, I am going a bit soft but these are early days and who knows what there may be to come. I don't know where you would like to put this on your website since there is a bit on Viagra and Cialis, a bit more on erections, on Aneros, on masturbation and on the effects of ageing. But the real story is of heterosexual copulation and how its joys can be extended by knowledge and practice. More developments from David: The purpose of this mail is to acquaint you with my experience with Viagra and Cialis:- I've written to you several times about how impotence led to a sexual transformation but, this time, I will try to give an account of the contribution of Viagra and Cialis. Not long after I was diagnosed as having type 2 diabetes, it became all too clear that I had become, for all practical purposes, impotent. Since we had always enjoyed our fucking - which I regard as my principal pleasure - this was a disaster for our quality of life and I started to research. So I decided to make my first foray into the internet. I soon discovered the Sexual Dysfunction Association. First I tried pornography and, although I enjoyed the images found their effect on my penis was minimal. Also enjoyable and mildly arousing were "The Joy of Sex" and the short stories of Anais Nin. And finally, of course, I read about Viagra, Cialis and Levitra and learned that, as long as your heart was sound and you did not have certain other medical conditions, one or more of them should be effective. I went so far as to obtain an on-line prescription but dropped that idea like a hot brick when I found that the prescribing doctor was unknown to the BMA! But I also found that these drugs could be prescribed on the NHS and, being over 60, they would be free! So I plucked up my courage and with my wife as back up went to see my GP. I described my problem as graphically as I could, he listened and when I had finished said "would you like to try Viagra?" Trying hard to conceal my excitement, I said "yes" and received in due course four 25mg tablets. (Viagra comes in four strengths, 25, 50 and 100mg ). That evening, I took off my clothes, took one tablet and sat down in front of the television to await events, taking good care not to touch. After about half an hour I felt my face flush and my nose became stuffy and before long I was hard and raring to go. I can't remember how good was the ensuing fuck - to have one at all was so marvellous. Next morning I could still raise a stand and since my wife did not feel up to it, I enjoyed my first proper wank for several months. After a couple more tries I was able to tell my doctor that it worked and the side effects were tolerable and settled down to eight 50mg tablets a month. During the following year, I gradually realised that although I could keep an erection going for two hours and could fuck until my wife was exhausted, sensation was not what might be expected being slight up to the point of ejaculation at which time orgasm was brief and too intense to be rally enjoyable. The internet revealed that other men experienced similar problems and I began to experiment with half and quarter pills. I also began to keep records and found the only effect of dosage was to change the duration of efficacy. Things were jogging along, very nicely when compared with a year previously when, out of the blue, and early morning quickie turned into a superorgasm that lasted for 45 minutes (the subject of my first letter to Peter). This led to a frenzied internet search which produced, as well as a great deal of rubbish, to Peter's account of the Aneros and to a detailed account of various Tantric techniques including ejaculation control. At much the same time, I also decided to try changing to Cialis, the influencing factors being the increased effective period from 4 hours to 36 (actually, both last a lot longer for me, about 12hr for 50mg Viagra or 72 - 96 hours for 20mg Cialis ) and similar but weaker side effects. So, I went again to my doctor, told him I wished to try Cialis which he duly prescribed, initially 10mg and then, at my request, 20mg. The reason for the increased dosage was that I found that my erections need more maintenance than they did with Viagra. This really is the only drawback with Cialis; although masturbation can maintain an erection more or less indefinitely, my wife's vagina is not tight enough. But aside from that, the combination of Cialis, Aneros and ejaculation control led to a second transformation which is still in progress. Peter has published my first two reports and I intend to write more as things develop. Sufficient to say here that sensation is terrific and frequency all that you can find time for. There are some drawbacks, reliability is not 100%, one or two disappointing fucks a month and the Aneros can be difficult to turn off. Three years ago, I would have said we had a good sex life, now it is fantastic with an occasional glimpse of how our bliss might prove fragile. I
love reading your web pages and I wanted to add something to
your article on erections. I’m in the sixties and my wife
had noticed that my erections weren’t as hard as they used
to be. I could still penetrate her and last long enough to satisfy
her but she thought I might be suffering from a mild form of
erectile dysfunction. However, my GP said it was age and that
I should expect my erections not to be so firm as in my youth.
It wasn’t too severe as to recommend the little ‘blue
pill’ but agreed it was something to be considered if my
erections got softer. I now have three pages which cover similar areas, and really to get the full picture you need to read all three webpages: This erectile dysfunction webpage: The page on the effects of various pills:
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